riiight, let me set you a scene....girl meets boy in scutty rock club. over a period of months girl gets to know boy and they get on well. they text from time to time, sometimes a bit dirty. eventually girl goes home with boy and they have sex for a lot of hours (for clarity purposes only- it was a lot of hours). then boy doesnt reply to any text messages for a FORTNIGHT and CRINGES (**CRINGES!!!!!**) when he see her in the pub.everyone tells girl - oh forget this... so everyone tells me he is a player and using me. and i eventually got talking to him again and went home with him and didnt see him for bloody ages again.now, everyone is probably right, and he probably is using me, especially since twice since then he's approached me about 10 minutes before club closing time (so clearly couldnt pull anyone else) and asked me to go home with him (i havent gone those times though)but fact is, he's bloody good at the sex thing, and hot and irish and the question being.... if i approach him and ask him to take me home instead... essentially, *i* would be using *him* wouldnt i? so that would be okay?yes.thank you for listening!! i think i answered myself in the process, lol. but any opinion welcome!!