I just try to let them be, and use them for what I want. I know that sounds shallow, but I used to be ultra-sensitive about girls, but that's a waste of time and energy. I don't mean "use" as in just sex, I like their company and conversation as well, I just mean I don't try to dig too deep into their problems or let their issues affect me. And believe me, every woman has an entire closet full of issues about something whether it's that daddy didn't love her, or something else similar. And all the listening and comforting in the world doesn't change those issues they have.. ever. Ever.
Im pissed off at my bf at the moment... GRR He is pretty much my male double, and just so you all know, this is going to make me sound super self-absorbed (but i dont think i am in real life... i hope not) but he drives me crazy! I wnat to hang out with him and he is always busy, and it drives me up the wall. And i wonder if this is what its like for my 2 ex's?? wtf! DRIVING ME INSANE! Both females and males can be ****ed up.
I want to be level headed here. Girls aren't that ****ed up but guys have a higher libido so just because she's refusing you sex because you woke up with a boner doesn't mean that she doesn't like sex. Anyway, it's so hot to leave to your girl to communicate when it's a good time for it.
Also if it's not just the sex part. It's the whole getting on with someone part in a relationship then that's just what happens when you spend a lot fo time with someone. It's just like sharing a place with your best mate. You'll start arguing eventually.
And as for trying to understand how to get with girls because you're single then that one is a mystery but i've always found that if i make an effort to find a girl it doesn't work. If I just go out to relax without making the social effort that when you talk to a girl they won't be put off by cheesey compliments or you staring at their tits.
Im sick of fretting about guys. Stresses me out too much!
Im having a week away in sydney, and i think im just going to turn my phone off for the entire time, or at least get it taken off me at midnight so i dont drink dial/text :s